On Kindness

I work part-time at Sesame Workshop, whose mission it is to help children grow “smarter, stronger, kinder.” These days, nothing seems more important than sending some kindness karma into the world.

If you ask most parents what trait they’d most like to nurture in their children, the majority would probably put “kindness” at or near the top of the list. And they’d truly mean it.

But if you asked most kids what they thought made their parents proudest, well, kindness might not even make the list. Funny thing, this gap. Or maybe not. We take kindness for granted. We openly admire people in society for their financial success, for their superior intellect or athletic prowess, for their fame or power. But when did your child last hear you say, “Look at that person over there. I’d like you to grow up just like him/her. She/he is really nice.”

In social media, it’s usually the snarkiest comments that get the most attention. On network news, the most horrific events get the most oxygen. Think about the positive reinforcement you give your child for mastering a new skill, tying a shoe for the first time, getting a good grade, or hitting a home run. Now I’m not suggesting praising kids over and over again for being kind; kindness should be the expected standard. But I do think that, at least occasionally, being kind should get them an equal amount of positive attention as, say, learning to skip.

As parents, we are our kids’ best role models. I fall down, just like anyone else. But I keep trying. Let’s all put some effort into modeling kindness, civility, and mutual respect—and noticing aloud when it’s practiced by others. Kindness is surprisingly addictive, and best of all, it feels as wonderful to the giver as to the recipient.

May 2017

About Julia, Part II

About a year ago, I wrote about Julia, a new Muppet on Sesame Street, who is on the autism spectrum. The autism initiative included a web site (check it out; it’s got incredible videos and other assets: sesamestreet.org/autism) and a storybook, We’re Amazing, 1, 2, 3.   I wrote the storybook, basing many of Julia’s characteristics on my amazing son, who has autism. Especially her love for music and singing—music fills our house every day. And I gave the new muppet a form of my daughter’s middle name, as an homage to the amazing siblings in families like ours.

The response to Julia was huge. As a result, Julia is making her debut as an actual 3-D Muppet (as was announced on 60 Minutes, 3/19/17)—and she is absolutely adorable.  The script was written by Chrissy Ferraro. It’s true to life (in a Muppet-y kind of way!) and fun. The performer, Stacey Gordon (herself the mother of a son with autism), is perfect. As an author, I have to say that there’s nothing more thrilling than watching a character you wrote come to life. Of all the things I’ve done in my many years at Sesame Workshop, this is the one I’m proudest of. It was a labor of love for me, and for so many others in the remarkable team that has brought Julia to life.  I hope Julia makes many friends and helps grow an atmosphere of respect and acceptance for everyone.

March 2017  

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Leslie Anne of Green Gables

I was completely besotted with Anne of Green Gables, growing up. There was one summer vacation, spent in Vermont, where I took out one book from the village library after another, tearing through every book in the series. Unlike the fictional Anne, I had always craved red hair (or, to give it Anne’s more romantic description, auburn). But nature had other ideas. So instead, as homage, I decided, like Anne, that “Anne with an e” is much more distinguished. I officially changed my middle name from Ann to Anne.

This summer I had the pleasure of finally visiting the Green Gables site on Prince Edward Island, in Canada. The whole island was absolutely lovely, but visiting Lucy Maude Montgomery’s birthplace, and the Green Gables house and other sites that inspired her stories was amazing. Even though I knew the stories were fictional, walking in “The Haunted Woods” or down “Lovers’ Lane” was a complete thrill.

Here’s me with one of the Anne’s the historic site hired this summer.

September 2016

Prize Cometh Before A Fall

I was thrilled recently to have my book, Everybody Says Shalom, named a Sydney Taylor Honor Book. These awards are given annually by the Association of Jewish Libraries to the children’s books that best portray the Jewish experience. I was especially excited because Sydney Taylor’s All-of-a-Kind Family series was such a big part of my childhood. The fact that the family in the story was Jewish and had a whole slew of sisters (five sisters to my family’s four) made me feel like I belonged in that family. Now our bond is even closer. If you look at the photo from an old book cover, I’m the girl in the upper left!

Anyway, it was a lovely conference, good company, and an enormous honor to receive the honor. Since the event was held in Charleston, which I’d never visited, I took the next day to see Fort Sumter (fascinating and fun) and walk around the lovely town.  All good. But as a clever friend quipped, “Prize cometh before a fall.” On the way back to my hotel to pick up my bags for the airport, I tripped on an uneven bit of sidewalk and broke my wrist. Now I’m in a cast for six weeks. I don’t remember this happening to any of the characters in the books.

 July 2016

About Julia

There’s a new Muppet on Sesame Street. Her name is Julia, and she has autism. She is part of a new community outreach initiative called See Amazing in All Children, designed to increase understanding of the one in sixty-eight children born in the United States that are being diagnosed on the Autism Spectrum Disorder.

The focus of the initiative is not only to show some of the behaviors that may be displayed by young children with autism, but also to show the commonalities these children share with “neuro-typical” children. The idea is to make interactions between all kids easier and more fun. There are videos (both animated and live action), daily routine cards, a terrific “Amazing” song, and much much more, all available for free on the web site: sesamestreet.org/autism. So far Julia lives only in the outreach materials, but it's gratifying to see what a big welcome she has received.

Personally, I am very proud to have been involved in this project, brainstorming, troubleshooting, taping some video bits, and writing the storybook: We’re Amazing, 1, 2, 3. It was a labor of love every step of the way, exactly the kind of material I wish had been available back when my son was diagnosed, more than twenty years ago. At the very least, our family wouldn’t have felt so alone. If your life has been touched in any way by autism (and even if it hasn’t yet been), please visit online!

January 2016

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